What is going on inside me? I must identify the thoughts that create my irritation, impatience and anger. In order to do that, I must be aware of my internal environment. Change the world and nothing happens, change myself and the world changes. The path to change involves recognition, admission, acceptance and action.
The good news is that I can change myself. I cannot change persons, situations or circumstances-external environment. Somehow, refusing to accept the things I cannot change is like banging my head against a brick wall. The Serenity Prayer suggests we “accept the things we cannot change”. Whatever occurs outside of us is subject to acceptance. “Let them whirl!” That’s acceptance! The same goes for all external environments. One of my favorite passages which I have remembered for almost 50 years is this one: “An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, what do you do about them? I let them whirl!” Just consider his options he could fuss, mumble, complain, swear, scream, yell, pray, shake his fist at them, or he could accept them just the way they are. I was given a precious little pamphlet by Father Vince Collins entitled Acceptance: The Way to Serenity and Peace of Mind.
I started learning the lesson of acceptance in my first five minutes in recovery. Could that possibly be true? Think of all of the ills in your world today and how acceptance applies. We read these amazing words “… and acceptance is the answer to all my problems today”. Posted in Food Addiction Recovery | 4 Comments What Will Acceptance Not Cure? Shall I live in toxic resentment or peaceful love? Forgiveness is objective and suspends judgement returns us to love and acceptance. If not, I will suffer from toxic emotions.” (Of course we really don’t realize that we are choosing toxins, but that is the way it is.) When we do that, we choose powerlessness by denying responsibility for our thoughts/beliefs and feelings. When we say to the person we resent, “If you act the way I think you should act I can be happy. Unforgiveness is subjective and judgmental and arrogant it is a demonstration of lack of love. Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.”įorgiveness is a pathway out of resentment. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free…Even when you don’t really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.
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“If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Here are instructions for a way to deal with resentments from the book Alcoholics Anonymous, Freedom from Bondage, p. Step seven is so effective because it shows willingness to “let go and let God”. One that I like a lot is my Step Seven prayer: Please take my (anger, resentment, irritation, frustration), God. So what actions will produce good results? I have a few tools that I use to forestall the words that will disturb the peace. As soon as we recognize the disturbance, we want to take action. So how do we stop the blame game? I think immediate action is called for. “It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us,” AA 12 & 12, p.
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